We’ve always used the adage “Fake it Till You Make It”. That may rankle some, but it can be valuable.
I chuckle when I think of one of our own stories. It is kind of random when associated with the following tidbits but I think it’s a great story and this is my chance to tell it! 😀
Hubby was looking for a job. He applied with a brick mason and the foreman asked if he had laid brick before. All he said to the foreman was, “Yes.”
My husband is a great rock mason, but brick was a whole different animal for him. At that time, he had built one brick mailbox for a customer…hehe.
The first day on the job, my husband showed up with his clumsy-looking rock trowel and dug in. The other guys looked askance at him but they kept on working.
A few days and many bricks later found Vincent gaining great speed, awkward trowel and all, as he slapped that mortar on the bricks like bread on butter! One of the guys walked up to him with a smile and said, “You really fake it till you make it, don’t you?”
If a virtue eludes us, “faking it” can be just using our will and doing it any way…..we may find that the virtue sticks, like mortar on a brick! 🙂
Faking It Can be Valuable
Sometimes a woman will tell me that she can’t treat her husband respectfully because he really is being a jerk, or really blew it with the taxes or just doesn’t seem worthy. She will even go so far as to tell me she feels dishonest about acting like she respects what he thinks when she just doesn’t.
What she means is that she doesn’t feel like treating him respectfully.
Of course it’s important to be honest in your relationship, but it’s also important to be polite. If you have to overlook your husband’s minor faults to treat him respectfully then do it.
Do this for the same reason you would go to work in the morning even if you didn’t feel like it — because it’s something you’ve committed to doing and others are counting on you.
Just as it’s not “dishonest” to go to work when you’re not in the mood, it’s not dishonest to treat your mate with respect when you don’t feel like it. It’s just a matter of keeping your commitment — in this case, a sacred one.
Sleep With Both Eyes Shut
If you’re anything like me, you’re used to being vigilant all the time. This means that although you have plenty of your own responsibilities, you keep an eye on lots of other things as well.
We do this because we believe that if we were really to let go and sleep with both eyes shut, everything might go to hell in a hand-basket.
For instance, I used to think that when my husband was driving it was up to me to warn him about cars in his blind spot, tell him when he was tailgating and point out choice parking spots. Otherwise, I feared, we would get in an accident (or have to walk too far).
When I thought about it, my husband’s good driving record reflected that he didn’t need any help from me.
Now I know what to do: I close my eyes — both of them.
Why We Love Men
They do seem completely bizarre at times, but there are some characteristics that are universally male that I’m very grateful for.
For one thing, they don’t harbor grudges like we do. That means that while I’ve still got a list of grievances from things my husband said in 1989, he’s generally focused on the present and has forgotten (and therefore forgiven) all my transgressions from the past.
For another thing, they don’t talk as much as we do. That makes me the only one around here who goes on and on about how I feel. Thank goodness.
Finally, let’s not overlook their willingness to put themselves in uncomfortable and even dangerous situations for our comfort. This covers a range of behaviors, including giving us their jackets when we’re cold and risking their safety to protect us.
Men are not as complicated, require far less maintenance, don’t mind lifting heavy stuff and are easy to please. How many women can you say that about?
I thought so.
A few things Vincent has done lately for me…..unplugging the sewer (yuck!), visiting with my dad and watching the baseball game with him when he (Vincent) was pooped, supporting me with the blog….100%.
What about you? Do you have any examples of how your hubby did something (little or big) for you lately? How about an example of “Faking it till you Make It?” I’d like to hear from you today!
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